Perhaps it would be helpful if such a word existed as Spirisexual. That way, perhaps we would be less likely to separate sexuality and spirituality. Our culture and even our spiritual pathways can lead us to believe they are separate. Deep within me from a young age, I felt very strongly that they were one. When I became an active seeker of spirituality, (at fifteen,) I waited to find a pathway with which I could identify, that would support me in growing even further toward merging body and spirit. Meanwhile I practiced varied meditations and learned to live my life.
Bliss is a state that can be obtained by sitting and meditating, and also it can be obtained in physical ways. Some people take drugs or drink to hope to obtain bliss. In this lifetime I haven’t wanted to ever do that. But I have been blessed with being highly orgasmic naturally. Back in 1964, I discovered such an exulted state when I became sexually active at eighteen years of age! It seemed like a miraculously, joyful place one could easily find, just by connecting with a partner and letting go. Without going into lengthy details, the inhibitions that I might have run into, were not a factor. I happened to be at the right place in time, as there was a sexual revolution going on, and I was in the right career, (show business) and very importantly I seemed to be mentally, emotionally and physically more independent than the average female.
As I write this, I am in bliss. I have learned to be able to produce rapture when I want, with or without a sexual encounter. It so happens that about two hours ago, I did make love to my husband.
Let me describe my bliss from head to toe. My scalp is breathing, my third eye area feels as if a tongue is moving on it in a sensual way. My brain is pulsing, and when I look into it, rays of light shoot in all directions. My ears are buzzing out orgasmic Morse Code. My nasal cavities are throbbing with space. My gums, lips and roof of my mouth are feeling as piquant as with a favorite hot sauce. Ah, the neck…It feels buffed, or polished to a high gleam. My heart spreads through my chest. It openly spills out into my breast and runs loving feelings down toward my belly which is as contentedly full as after a perfect meal of kisses.
The sexual organs are the place from which many people believe orgasm originates. That is a learned, and limiting belief, but the sexual organs do indeed in bliss, feel like a kitten purring image that must be iterated by a goodly amount for the reader to get the true picture. These are not simply aroused, or horny feelings I’m describing. They are dream-time orgasm at their best. I’ve trained my mind to encourage the feeling in any part of my body and to replicate orgasm. Legs and arms too, vibrate with a chi-filled feeling. And the most important part is my spine which contain icy tingles just like from a song lyric. Continuous messages are delivered to the brain to keep up this roller-coaster ride of beyond-orgasmic feeling for long time periods.
I am in a similar blissful state after beginning my meditation, (sometimes as intense, sometimes less so.) Years ago, before I trained to be able to do this, I did have spontaneous multi-orgasm a few times in my life, but now with practice, it is becoming more and more a way of life. The best part is that I can be doing other things, and not always lose the intensity of the ecstasy.
The point of this description is that some people don’t know what orgasm feels like, and some don’t know what bliss feels like. Some will say they are separate feelings because they lose their body in bliss. In my opinion, it is a choice to separate or not. Typing an article takes a certain part of the brain, and being in bliss can take a certain part of the brain. How can I be performing in both states at once? Perhaps I can illuminate with the following information.
My teacher, Master Mantak Chia, was measured on Oct. 25, 1996 for his ULP, (ultraslow brain potentials,) in the laboratory of the Institute for Applied Biocybernetics Feedback Research in Vienna, Austria. To quote literature reproduced by the Intl. Healing Tao, “The level of ULP closely correlates the flow of energy in the body: clarity, efficiency, health, the ability to concentrate, the ability to react, the sexual experience and other mental activities. The measuring instrument was a biofeedback device developed in the IBF: the PCE-Scanner. The measured figures were diagrammed…” To obtain this entire document on the web, find it at www.healing-tao.com . It helps people to understand that with practice, one can complete the techniques of Inner Smile, Microcosmic Orbit and Orgasmic Upward Draw, and energy continues to increase for the next many minutes and can stay at a high level for over half a day, (as was recorded on Chia,) and one can continue doing other things and maintain this highly rapturous state. The results, as reported by the Institute in Vienna, are different than from using mantras or chanting, but everyone’s individual experience is unique, and I wouldn’t personally declare that any other practice couldn’t put one toward being able to keep the energy inside the mind and body like those practices that I’ve learned from Master Chia over the last eighteen years.
Teaching my Tai Chi-Chi Kung classes always puts me into bliss and I am thrilled when sometimes out of a clear blue sky, bliss pops up, like a sun shower. I often have a Utopian dream that if the world was trained to do this we wouldn’t have people needing to relieve their frustrated sexual feelings in violent or other out-of-control ways. The understanding that spirituality and sexuality are one, could have as a timely example, saved President Clinton, and our entire nation from embarrassment due to his inability to keep his sexual needs within the control of his own mind and heart. The less we separate spirituality and sexuality, the more easily will these controls be learned. Yet, this practice of mine also teaches me patience. We must all come to our varied evolution as we are ready.
BIO:Raven Cohan has been a certified Healing Tao instructor since 1983, and lives in Hollywood, FL.
THE MULTI-ORGASMIC MANby Mantak Chia and Douglas Abrams Arava
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