What is Letting Go?

Michael, Max and all,

What exactly is ‘letting go’ in your experience?

In my life I observed two types:

‘Letting go’ as a result out of pain or loss, where we make a choice ‘to let go’ or to hang on to a situation or person.

I have people claiming they have ‘let go’ a problem or situation from the past. Yet when starting to dig into the body/organ, memories start to arise and they are surprised ‘it is still there’…
It is without doubt that on some level we let go, mainly emotional or mental but when entering the body memory it is still there. We think we let go, but the information is NOT fully digested or completed at all levels.
Like: What I don’t have (example: a fulfilling relationship), what I don’t achieve (being a master), what is said to be wrong by teachers (my guru tells me sex is bad), what is lost (loved one death). We try to accept it and let go. Is it really ‘gone’ or is it a way of dealing with situations?

‘Letting go’ out of surrender and joy, complete acceptance of a situation, a complete understanding of the ‘problem’. Meaning that you have to ‘understand’/’feel’ and embrace something fully and totally,which is a complete different feeling in my experience.

I only once had such a complete and total understanding, a complete forgiveness towards myself. It felt like bliss, I was so happy, and I felt so much sadness for what I did to myself. I understood completely what I was causing to myself. Yet it took many years after that moment and many lessons, to really forgive and to let go the bad feelings about myself.
In that same time frame I had an experience I died on the battle field hit by a bullet. I felt how I died and it was super. I don’t fear death yet I do fear the pain it will cause to those who will be left. I fear the pain before the actual death. I have seen so much pain with patients. I haven’t let go that one.

Yet the letting go out of pain can become a letting go in joy. Yet not many achieve that. I have seen many people suffer and dying. Not many really let go, only in the last moments before death there is this peace coming. Often they got so much morfine/pain killers it is a unconscious death. But that is another issue.