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August 21, 2009 at 5:00 pm #32090StevenModerator
Lonely Planet
Despite our inter-connectedness, we’re now more alone than ever.
By Johannah Cornblatt | Newsweek Web Exclusive
Aug 21, 2009
http://www.newsweek.com/id/213088?GT1=43002There are more than 300 million of us in the United States, and sometimes it seems like we’re all friends on Facebook. But the sad truth is that Americans are lonelier than ever. Between 1985 and 2004, the number of people who said there was no one with whom they discussed important matters tripled, to 25 percent, according to Duke University researchers. Unfortunately, as a new study linking women to increased risk of heart disease shows, all this loneliness can be detrimental to our health.
The bad news doesn’t just affect women. Social isolation in all adults has been linked to a raft of physical and mental ailments, including sleep disorders, high blood pressure, and an increased risk of depression and suicide. How lonely you feel today actually predicts how well you’ll sleep tonight and how depressed you’ll feel a year from now, says John T. Cacioppo, a neuroscientist at the University of Chicago and coauthor of Loneliness: Human Nature and the Need for Social Connection. Studies have shown that loneliness can cause stress levels to rise and can weaken the immune system. Lonely people also tend to have less healthy lifestyles, drinking more alcohol, eating more fattening food, and exercising less than those who are not lonely.
Though more Americans than ever are living alone (25 percent of U.S. households, up from 7 percent in 1940), the connection between single-living and loneliness is in fact quite weak. “Some of the most profound loneliness can happen when other people are present,” says Harry Reis, professor of psychology at the University of Rochester. Take college freshmen: even though they’re surrounded by people almost all the time, many feel incredibly isolated during the first quarter of the school year with their friends and family members far away, Cacioppo says. Studies have shown that how lonely freshmen will feel can be predicted by how many miles they are from home. By the second quarter, however, most freshmen have found social replacements for their high-school friends. Unfortunately, as we age, it becomes more difficult to recreate those social relationships. And that can be a big problem as America becomes a more transient society, with an increasing number of Americans who say that they’re willing to move away from home for a job.
Loneliness can be relative: it has been defined as an aversive emotional response to a perceived discrepancy between a person’s desired levels of social interaction and the contact they’re actually receiving. People tend to measure themselves against others, feeling particularly alone in communities where social connection is the norm. That’s why collectivist cultures, like those in Southern Europe, have higher levels of loneliness than individualist cultures, Cacioppo says. For the same reason, isolated individuals feel most acutely alone on holidays like Christmas Eve or Thanksgiving, when most people are surrounded by family and friends.
Still, loneliness is a natural biological signal that we all have. Indeed, loneliness serves an adaptive purpose, making us protect and care for one another. Loneliness essentially puts the brain on high alert, encouraging us not to eat leftovers from the refrigerator but to call a friend and eat out. Certain situational factors can trigger loneliness, but long-term feelings of emptiness and isolation are partly genetic, Cacioppo says. What’s inherited is not loneliness itself, but rather sensitivity to disconnection.
Social-networking sites like Facebook and MySpace may provide people with a false sense of connection that ultimately increases loneliness in people who feel alone. These sites should serve as a supplement, but not replacement for, face-to-face interaction, Cacioppo says. He compares connecting on a Web site to eating celery: “It feels good immediately, but it doesn’t give you the same sustenance,” he says. For people who feel satisfied and loved in their day-to-day life, social media can be a reassuring extension. For those who are already lonely, Facebook status updates are just a reminder of how much better everyone else is at making friends and having fun.
Michael J. Bugeja, a professor of communications at Iowa State University and author of Interpersonal Divide: The Search for Community in a Technological Age, says that the encroachment of digital communication into our social lives can amplify feelings of isolation. He describes texting or Twittering in the presence of others as a “prescription for loneliness.” Such behavior, he says, sends the message that someone somewhere else is more important. “The human heart is suffering from lack of authentic interaction,” he says. “Just being able to engage genuinely and politely with your neighbors is a better fix than Xanax could ever affect for mental stability.”
So how many friends do you need to avoid loneliness? There’s no magic number, according to Cacioppo. An introvert might need one confidante not to feel lonely, whereas an extrovert might require two, three, or four bosom buddies. Experts say it’s not the quantity of social relationships but the quality that really matters. “The most popular kid in school may still feel lonely,” Cacioppo says. “There are a lot of stars who have been idols and lived lonely lives.”
September 6, 2009 at 8:48 pm #32091ExplorerParticipantThis article says levels of loneliness increase when people perceive more social activity in others, so they have a higher standard to compare themselves to. That doesn’t make sense to me since I really don’t need some kind of common standards to figure out what my own needs are. A lot of other things in the article make sense but I think the main reason loneliness might be increasing is the changing economic situation that limits both the money and free time people have for anything that benefits their social lives.
September 7, 2009 at 3:05 pm #32093StevenModerator>>>This article says levels of loneliness increase
>>>when people perceive more social activity in others,
>>>so they have a higher standard to compare themselves to.
>>>That doesn’t make sense to me since I really don’t need
>>>some kind of common standards to figure out what my
>>>own needs are.Yeah, this is just a theory of the author to try to
explain an observed increase in feelings of loneliness>>>A lot of other things in the article make sense
>>>but I think the main reason loneliness might be
>>>increasing is the changing economic situation
>>>that limits both the money and free time people
>>>have for anything that benefits their social lives.I think that’s part of it.
I think another part is that–as a society–we are filling
up more and more of lives with “busyness” and
the more rewarding experiences of direct communication
and time spent with others is slowly being replaced
by more “plastic” or “empty” forms of connection–such
as texting, Twittering, calls on cell rather than talking
in person, etc.The “plastic” communication creates the illusion of actually
connecting with others while getting little of the actual value.It’s like replacing meals with Twinkies. You are still eating,
but you are getting no actual content, if you know what I mean.S
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