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November 27, 2007 at 2:21 am #26343StevenModerator
The issue is this:
Sometimes you get extremely sexually aroused.
However, it is not always practical to have sex.
Maybe there is no partner available; maybe you are
in a public situation; maybe . . . whatever.
What techniques can be used to channel this energy
into a productive fashion?Simply saying “it is natural feeling” does nothing for
the issue, anymore than telling a hungry man that
“hunger is natural”. The hungry man wants a solution to
his hunger. Similarly simply remaining/accepting
your sexual aroused state does nothing for the
internal frustration felt.It seems like practical techniques should exist
that not only alleviate the frustration, but could
also simultaneously be used to channel this energy
into something useful–rather than wasting the opportunity
to recycle it so to speak.I’m not advocating the elimination of sexual desire!
It is a natural part of life, and is a wonderful gift.
Moreover, there are plenty of situations when a person
might want to let all the sexual force operate naturally.
For instance, in a relationship, engaging in sex can
be a point of deep bonding and the exploration of
true delight. However, it does nothing for you other
than cause frustration if it arises in say, standing
in line at a bank. In these situations it would be
useful to channel the energy into a different form
to avoid frustration.What practices/techniques are available for combating
sexual frustration?The only tool I’ve learned myself is that–personally
by avoiding sexual imagery, I tend to be less
continuously sexually juiced. Thus I only think
about sex every 10 minutes rather than every 5.However, Michael suggests that following techniques
like this pave the way toward denying sexual desire
ala the Buddhist philosophy. I’m willing to listen
to such viewpoints, and am open to other alternatives–but
alternatives need to be presented!! Otherwise it is akin
to telling the hungry man that “hunger is natural” without
providing any solutions to the frustration.Hence my question about “are there any higher level
practices in this system that address this issue?”I realize that courses such as “Healing Love”, “Lesser
Kan and Li”, etc. deal with sexual energy (I’ve not
taken them yet). However, when I looked at the
descriptions of the courses, I didn’t see
any answers to my above questions–at least from what I
could see. The description of “Healing Love” talks about how
you learn about the theory of sexual energy, how
to stop PMS, how to get whole-body orgasms, how to
enhance sex in the bedroom, how to cure impotence
and provide natural alternatives to Viagra, and sexual
identity issues and more; the description of “Lesser Kan
and Li” talks about sexual identity issues, birthing
the immortal fetus, healing chronic illnesses, and more.I didn’t see anything about what I’m asking.
Of course, not having taken said courses, that doesn’t
mean that it is not there–I’m just not aware of
it. This is why I’m asking the question.If there ARE techniques then could someone say
what they might be? In the case that there are,
you don’t need to go into specifics, because it would
be covered in the course (which I’ll eventually take
after prerequisites).Saying “sexual desire is natural” does nothing toward
providing tools. Talk does not cook the rice.I realize I made a similar post below, but it didn’t
get any play. I’m not sure whether it is
because it was buried, or because I wasn’t clear,
or because no one has any suggestions.S
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Here is a copy of the previous post:
Hi Michael,
I read your post, and have been thinking about it carefully.
It brings to mind some questions, and any insight you can provide
would be greatly appreciated:My argument for avoiding sexual imagery was that in
doing so you avoid creating unsatisfied sexual desire–which
ultimately leads to frustration. Thus decreased exposure
creates decreased frustration!Personally, my Chinese 5 Element makeup is
41% wood, 38% water–i.e. 79% fuel for sexual energy.
So you can guess how strong the sexual drive operates
in me! I even get aroused doing qigong!For me, my mind and body are overly preoccupied
with sexual thoughts and desires, and at least *so far*,
the tactic I mentioned is the *only* thing I’ve found
to reduce my sexual frustration.I’m willing to keep an open mind on this loaded
issue of sexual desire, but what alternatives
can you suggest for handling sexual frustration?Are there higher level practices in this system
that provide tools for dealing with this?Thanks in advance,
StevenNovember 27, 2007 at 4:57 am #26344wendyParticipantSteve, let me tell you a little story about a man who was one of my basic students some years ago, he had being really into the sexual practice, reading and trying to practice for himself and came to some similar questions as you. He asked me to help him to use this energy in a better way. In one private session I guided him through his sexual fantasies and masturbation, right into his heart.
A man tends to bring the energy outward I urged him to take his energy inward and instead of going fast and faster to take it a bit slower and into the feeling of what happened very deep inside of him, instead of focusing on coming. Getting the feeling first in the belly which is pretty simple but guiding up through the diaphragm is more difficult hitting the blockages there, so you need to focus and breath through that, even use sound release. The closer to the heart the more sound release can be necessary. Agree a bit difficult standing in line by the bank…
During his masturbation I asked him to let go his fantasy and go into the pure feeling of what happened in his body, massaging himself with the free hand, the heart and his breasts, to open up the heart area, to honor and love is own body.
His session ended with a deep relaxation and closer feeling to himself, no ejaculation, no whole body orgasm, but the start of a deeper communication with himself.
In a second session 2 months later he had been practicing by himself and found out that he had major blockages, he could feel no love for himself, felt he had judgements about his partner, etc. In other words he did not came for another masturbation round, he came to understand more about his emotional patterns and deeper issues. And that is where anyone has to truly work with before hunting after the higher sexual practices.
I was very happy to hear he made that conclusion himself and was honest towards himself he had to work on this issues, loving himself better.
And he was very happy he had experienced this kind of trust and support, no judgements on his sexual appetite and openness to express his spiritual sexual needs and questions.Of all the energies on this planet, the sexual energy is the one that needs most care and love, it is the sick and uncared child.
November 27, 2007 at 5:02 am #26346Swedich DragonParticipantHello Steven
As you might know by know I’m not on a high level in this system. But I think you definitely should do the healing love course. Especially the big draw dealing with aroused sexual energy especially important for men. It’s like M.C but you take up the Jing=sexual energy instead of the qi, you take it up to your head. When doing so the energy leave the sexual organ and you don’t feel any need to have another outlet of this energy like a sperm orgasm. It’s quite amazing how this exercise change your need to have sex. It realy disapears when doing this exercise. Not completely though but in the aroused moment it realy helps. It’s of course wery important not to leave the enery in the head but take it back down to your stomach on the front of the body again otherwice you migth get a madness.
The Jing is like syrup when the qi is like water. So it takes alot more effort to work with it. In the healing love courses you learn alot of techniques to help the energy up. It’s also important to do Iron Shirt or other rooting practises when doing the big draw.
For me it’s a miracle. For the moment I have huge amount’s of sexual energy and wake up with a hard one several times each night. If I do the big draw I can sleep again and not feel any need for sex. I will also feel much stronger and alive. The Jing is nourishing al the centres the chakras along theire way up to the head. I think this also makes you wery atractive for the ladies. They feel your high balanced sexual energy and get aroused by it. As I have noticed.
Mantak Chia learn this quite early in his aproach. Michael W I think have it later. I think he want’s you to do the fusion before the healing love. The risk with sexual energy exercises are that you might get unvalanced from it. It’s wery strong exercises. So if you learn the big draw make sertain you have enogh other exercises like Iron Shirt and for me it helps with the inner smile and other basic qigong to. Have done the big draw for 7 years now and not jet learned the fusion, but is on my way to start it soon. One of the importances with fusion if you work with sexual energies is that the Jing is increasing all your feelings. If unbalanced and angry you get much more angry and so on. So make shoore you are ballanced some how in your psychological make up.
The things you did write about earlier like what happened when doing the work shops indicate for med that you realy should work on grounding, Iron Shirt or other grounding qigongl. And continue it if you learn the healing love on a regular basis.
In my opinion you need the healing love course right now. Then in the future there are better ways to deal with the sexual energies within the Kan and Li but this is just theory for you and me right know. Big draw is the answer to your question.
Sincerely S D
November 27, 2007 at 5:20 am #26348Swedich DragonParticipantBy the way. A warning also.
If doing the big draw and not have any ejaculations. The Jing will be extreamly much more powerful. Thind about having ewen 10 times higher sexual energy. It doens’t seems like you need this for the moment 🙂
So do the big draw somethimes and learn how many ejaculatory orgasms you need to make the energy on the level that is ok for you.
What wendy says makes a lot of sense to. I feel though this might take time for younger men to realise. But absolutely try it also. But be a litle bit careful if you experiment with this and the big draw to not let the sexual energy into your heart. This is not good for you. Love in the heart the sexual energy to the head and then store it in the tan tien is the best.
For the moment having much sexual energy myself I will tell you a dream I had last night. This is typical when the sexual energy gets wery strong for me. The reasons for why it is strong is that I did exercises with the white tiger system last summer and that I not look at porn and that I not have ejaculatory orgasm for the momen. It was 12 days ago and during this days the sexual energy realy want to have an outlet. If you continue it will get sleeping from moments to moments and then come back later on again ewen more strong.
The typical dream this time with Michale Win as an object. (Havent dreamt about m before)
I saw Michael Winn masturbating. He had a huge and wery hard penis. Did look at it and did smile. The door was ringing but he had someone else to open it. It was not bad to let the energy decrease while disturbed but it was not the most beneficial thing. What did make me a litle bit shooked was that he wasn’t shy about what he was doing for other people. Then he took up somekind of flat object and did wire the penis around it several times. It was like the man had at least seven big penises after eachother around the object. It was some kind of stretch to make it even bigger.
Such dreams and others with wery big penises are comon for me when doing this periods without ejaculation. It indicates a wery strong sexual force in me.
There was also alot of dreams some wery strange going on when starting this practises. It seems like there is a need for some wery bid psychological changes when starting with this. Theire is also uncounsious resistance for the change from ejacualtion to big draw and other things happening in the beginning. This was typical for me the first years.
Be careful with the sexual energy!
Sincerely S D
November 27, 2007 at 1:51 pm #26350loesParticipantHi Steven,
I may not know what it is like to be a man (at least not in this lifetime) but as a former addict I do know something about cravings. And in my experience wanting sex is one of them, comparable to wanting drugs, alcohol, junkfood, etc
Cravings are like little children: they want it and they want it NOW!
And when you don’t give it to them they’ll wine about it and they remind you about it at least every ten minutes (are you sure I can not have that icecream????).
As you found out cravings respond to triggers. In order to want the icecream, you have to see it first or see or hear something that is associated with the icecream eating. That’s what our whole economy is based upon.
So one stategy is to avoid the triggers as best as you can. That way the kids won’t trouble you so much. And as you experienced that helps a little.
But why do these children wine in the first place and what can you do about it?
Children have needs and the more these needs are neglected, the more they seek attention in negative ways. When children are fed wholesome tasty food made with loving attention they are less likely to crave icecream. Does that mean they never have any? Sure, but not every day, mayby just on special occasions. And when they do, they can have the real stuff, made with real cream and fresh fruit…
So you can say to your inner child: It’s OK to want this, but not now, now is not a convenient time, but tonight after dinner…This is my strategy, maybe it works for you to.
I sometimes promise myself to have great sex at a certain time. I make a date with myself and make it really special. I put all the love, creativity and attention in it that I am capable of. And if I need a sexy partner, I imagine a sexy partner, or better still, I am that person. In my mind I can do anything I like. That way I fulfill my own needs as best as I can.
with love,
Loes
November 27, 2007 at 10:55 pm #26352IntelligenceParticipantNovember 27, 2007 at 11:41 pm #26354StevenModeratorHi wendy,
>>Of all the energies on this planet,
>>the sexual energy is the one that needs most
>>care and love, it is the sick and uncared child.This is so true, and hit home with me on many levels.
Thank you for sharing such a wonderful story.Of all points in the body, the heart is one place that
the needs the most attention. I am no exception.One of my biggest issues outside of sexual frustration–
although not necessarily separate from it–are issues
with the heart . . . feeling unloved. I’m constantly
feeling alone and lonely.Oftentimes when I’m feeling sexually aroused, when I
look deep within to the core, what I really see is
that I’m feeling unloved and I’m craving an emotional
connection to another person–to be able to show and
share love with another.This is I think why my frequent arousal is even
more unpleasant for me. It amplifies the feelings
of separateness and the feeling like I have no one
to share my heart with.It might sound strange coming from a man, but
the desire to lay in bed holding a woman close
in a loving embrace and to share love is an
even stronger desire for me than the sexual impulse . . .Thanks again for your words,
StevenNovember 28, 2007 at 12:18 am #26356StevenModeratorThanks SD,
I wasn’t aware of this “big draw” as you describe, and it looks
like this is definitely one technique for dealing with the
sexually aroused feeling. It sort of looks like at the very
least it could be a technique of temporarily derailing the
feeling for a short time. It may end up coming back stronger
later, but later might be a better time when these feelings
could be dealt with and perhaps provide a better experience
later when you do explore them.I’m not entirely unschooled in my background with the system–having
taken the MC class on Tao Yin, QF1-4 and Iron Shirt (with a taste of
Fusion 1) at the summer retreats.Previously, I had learned most of QF1-2 on my own at home
and the Deep Healing Qigong. Also, this fall I took Primordial
and retook QF1-2. I’ll be retaking QF3-4 in December.However, I’m not someone that will rush into practices too soon.
I value Michael’s opinion on waiting until going through Fusion
before the sexual stuff. Being a mathematician, I’m all about
doing things in a systematic sequence, and not jumping the gun
until the basics are learned. If anything, I’m probably an
opposite person where I’m more likely to spend more on time
on the basics, practicing again and again–repeating courses
even if they seem somewhat unnecessary before slowly moving
on to the next level. If anything, most people will probably
move to higher level practices sooner than me just because
I’m so careful about trying to learn things thoroughly first.
I’m more a depth person than a speed person. In other words,
it may be a while before I move beyond the basic practices.My main interest in these questions has to do with getting
some idea of what’s ahead on the horizon–sort of like getting
a bigger picture so that when I do take subsequent courses
I know what to look for, i.e. “OK, this is what I was
asking about earlier. I’m going to take special note
of what is being taught here.” In other words, knowing
that there ARE techniques and maybe knowing them by name,
even if I don’t know what they are–allows me to personally
better focus on the now and not be so distracted by
things that might be possible.Interesting about your dream with MW.
Hopefully he’s not too disturbed that you’re dreaming about
him masturbating! 🙂Thanks for writing,
StevenNovember 28, 2007 at 1:05 am #26358Swedich DragonParticipantHello Steven
I’m also taking things slowly. I’m also think Michael approach learning fusion before healing love make much sence. Just be aware of that Mantak Chia had fusion as a course after healing love. It isn’t always so that beacase one guy tells you the order of things they nessesarily have to come in that order. Everything is more holistically. My feeling was that you needed the big draw just now. If you are aware of that doing this practises might have the side efect of making you more unbalanced. Then you can do them less, if it happens or add more other practises to make it more balanced. This is my opinion but I have had Mantak Chia as my first teacher not Michael Winn. Haven’t followed his approach of order of things. Haven’t even been aware of it.
I believe also there is other practises taking care of the long term issue:
Steven Wrote:
“I wasn’t aware of this “big draw” as you describe, and it looks
like this is definitely one technique for dealing with the
sexually aroused feeling. It sort of looks like at the very
least it could be a technique of temporarily derailing the
feeling for a short time. It may end up coming back stronger
later, but later might be a better time when these feelings
could be dealt with and perhaps provide a better experience
later when you do explore them”If we look at some ohter exercises: You have the testicle breathing helping you for instance with your sexuality in general if living like a celibate. Scrotal compression is another one.
Of coarse if you are following Michaels approach and like and believe in it. Please continue. I can just tell you knowing this sexual practises is a revolution for a man and it feels greate to explore into it.
The dream: I guess the dream did choose M W as a symbol of a man with high sexual energy. It was of coarse my dream my responibility and my pictures. The wierd things in it comes from me and not from Michael in any way. It has nothing to do with M W more than as my symbols of things. Not nowing anything of his sexual behaviours. So I hope no one is upset about it.
And M if you are please take it away from the site.
Sincerely S D
November 28, 2007 at 1:19 am #26360StevenModeratorHi Loes,
That’s a pretty accurate description about cravings,
and was fairly dead-on in my opinion. Seeking attention
as whining kids is exactly right.Going off-topic for a moment on to the topic of addictions,
I don’t think that necessarily they are such a bad thing!
What I mean is that sometimes I think that people need to
develop addictions to certain things in order to explore
some issue much more thoroughly and much more potently than
can be explored otherwise. Although a particular addiction
may not be “healthy”, sometimes I think that as long as the
addiction is there, it is there as a vital tool for learning.The one thing I’ve learned about addictions is that as long as
you haven’t fully explored whatever it is that you are trying
deep down to learn about yourself, you will never really be
free of it. If you are addicted to something, but you
try and force yourself to stop via willpower, then the
addiction actually becomes stronger. It won’t let go.
Either you are unsuccessful in your attempt to eradicate
the addiction, or even if you are “successful”, you will
find yourself constantly wanting to go back to it until
eventually you do.In this latter case, if a person has given up some addiction
via force, typically they will constantly either think
about going back or are constantly worried about going back.
When a person is in this state, in some ways their life
becomes *as* controlled by *not* being addicted as it was
when they were!!The operating reason here being that you haven’t finished
learning the lessons that the addiction is giving you.
You will probably go back, and in some ways . . . the sooner
the better.Even if it is a physically unhealthy addiction, on some deep
level it is providing a benefit. It is necessary for whatever
reason to achieve “completion” with some issue in the
most potent way possible.However, once you have reached “completion” on a deep level,
and you are not receiving these deep benefits any longer,
then the addiction seems to just fall away on its own–with
very little actual effort. In this case, even if there is a
physical withdrawal, it doesn’t even seem to bother you.
You simply don’t have any desire to return to it.
It sort of becomes like the magnet that used to be there
has now become “demagnetized” and there is no longer any
attraction to it whatsoever.Personally, I used to be highly addicted to caffeine.
I used to drink 6 cans of Coke a day minimally. I did this
for years. Other people used to tell me that I needed
to stop. I remember teaching a class and going into the
class with 2 cans of Coke and then drinking one in its entirety
during the 10 minutes before class began, and then drinking
another during the class. I had students write on their
evaluations: “Dude, settle down on the Coke”. I couldn’t
stop. I had horrible withdrawals if I even went a short time
without it. I had some pretty negative health consequences:
acid reflux, dizzy spells, panic attacks, mood swings, etc.
No attempt to stop worked. If I did stop for a short time,
I couldn’t stop thinking about how I wanted to go back until
I did. Then one day on some deep level, I realized it
wasn’t doing anything for me anymore. The magnet “demagnetized” and
I quit. I went through horrible physical withdrawals. It was
a month at least before it started to be less intense.
The weird thing though was, I had no “desire” to go back, no
“psychological urge”. The addiction had become unnecessary
and pointless and it just fell away. I haven’t had caffeine
for 6 years and it still has no appeal whatsoever.Similarly, I used to be somewhat addicted to looking at porn.
I used to spend a couple hours daily looking at it. I tried
many times to stop, and was unsuccessful. Then one day, I
reached completion. The magnet “demagnetized” and I lost all
interest in it. In this case, the “chocolate cake” analogy I
gave and the fact that it wasn’t really accomplishing what
I was wanting deep down, demagnetized it. Now I don’t look at
porn at all. I have no interest in it. Moreover, in the off
chance I happen to be exposed to erotic imagery or porn
(or like when I went to the website Michael mentioned), it had
no interest for me. It just felt completely pointless; no
desire was reawakened because I felt complete with this.The funny thing is, is that when I look at any addiction that
I had in the past that I no longer have, they all fit this
pattern. I dropped them, not because I tried to force them
away. I dropped them, because they fell away on their own.Of course, this point of view would probably not be too
popular with people dealing with severe drug addicts, because
they may die before they reach the completion, but it
feels right to me.In some ways I feel that if someone is struggling with an
addiction, they need to embrace it rather than try to
flee from it. Then, while embracing it, look deep within
to try to locate what it is that your inner being REALLY wants.
Then when you truly identify what your inner being REALLY wants,
if you give that to yourself instead, then the magnet
demagnetizes and the addiction drops.This was really the source of my comments earlier to SD
as he struggles with his porn addiction.At any rate, I’ve blathered on enough about this, but
I felt some calling to write for some reason . . .Steven
November 28, 2007 at 1:28 am #26362StevenModeratorHi Loes,
I think your suggestion of talking to your inner sexual desire
like a child, and promising it that you will fully explore
it passionately at a later date is a really good suggestion.Not only do I think that this would help with taking a little
bit of the edge off, but I think that would make the experience
that much more special and satisfying when you do let it out
later on.>>I sometimes promise myself to have great sex at a
>>certain time. I make a date with myself and make it
>>really special. I put all the love, creativity and
>>attention in it that I am capable of. And if I need a
>>sexy partner, I imagine a sexy partner, or better still,
>>I am that person. In my mind I can do anything I
>>like. That way I fulfill my own needs as best as I can.This is an interesting suggestion and I’ll definitely
have to think about this on a deeper level. Thanks for
taking the time to post; you are a special person.Sending love back to you,
StevenNovember 28, 2007 at 2:04 am #26364StevenModeratorHi SD,
Yeah, I understand that the “order” is sort of made up by those
that are teaching it, but the reasons presented by Michael
make sense/resonate with me, so that was the source of
my comment. I agree that the whole system is holistic and
all parts are important–ultimately all coming together.At least for me, I’m not in any particular rush.
Mainly the thrust of this thread was one of intense curiosity
and to open further discussion.I’m glad, however, that you’ve responded back with a number
of different practices. This is exactly the sort of
thing I was hoping would be mentioned. Sometimes I think
that people don’t mention these things a lot because they
don’t want people to start practicing things they’re not
ready for–which I can understand–however, just being
aware of them for me has been a benefit.At the very least, it has changed my opinion slightly on
the Healing Love course. I sort of figured that maybe
that it wouldn’t really be a good course at all for me to
take in the future, because I have no partner and I’m not
too interested in developing “whole-body orgasms” or
“multiple orgasms” or whatnot on my own, i.e. what’s
the point of developing all sort of sexual practices, if
you have no one to practice with–and on my own, heightening
sexual pleasure in masturbation isn’t really a priority for me.However, from this discussion, it appears that while those
things are definitely part of the course, that there are
also other things that would be good to know even for
someone alone like me.This was definitely part of the interest in this thread, since
my next project is to learn Fusion, and so looking to the
future I was sort of trying to picture how the sexual
practices could really be of any use to me–since I’m not
really having sex like I get the impression that most
other people are.Since you’ve been celibate for awhile, you’ve provided
a unique perspective here that I appreciate.Also, as to the dream you had, don’t worry about it!
My response was a lighthearted comment. I don’t think
that Michael would necessarily mind. It’s not as if
anyone really has control over what they dream, and it
doesn’t really matter anyway. Part of this purpose
of this forum I think is to be able to be open and honest
with your different experiences, because by doing so
they provide a vehicle to accelerate progress on the
practice level–both personally, and for others that
read about experiences others post.I know wendy has posted some pretty personal things, so
have I, so have others . . . so don’t worry about it.
All these things are helpful both on a personal level
and to others that are on their own path.We are all in it together, my friend.
Peace,
StevenNovember 28, 2007 at 2:05 am #26366StevenModeratorNovember 28, 2007 at 6:38 am #26368Swedich DragonParticipantHello Steven.
Actually I’m not know so much of M W way to teach this stuf. But I’m wery interested in his approach. And I’m wery happy he is available on a site like this.
According to you living without a partner for the moment Mantak Chias advices when starting the Healing Love for men is to be a celibate for the first year. It’s about the time it takes to realy learn the big draw for instance and it’s easier to do by yourself without mixing up with another persons energies. Its also dificult to learn with the extra hight intensity in a relationship. It also takes so much efort for the man in the beginning so the woman might get a feeling of not being loved enough. So I think that you are in the wery right position to start this invastigations of your own energies. I notice often that perhaps the title of the book “multiorgasmic man” do more harm than good. It was much of a comersial book I guess. But it have done much to get out the knowledge of this to the comunities also. Actually when I learned the healing love and had used the methods for about three years I had forgot about the possibilities of multiple orgasms and such stuff. It was not the main focus in Matak Chias ´first book on cultivating male sexual energy. And I’m not into it for the moment either. The main benefits is that you get an enourmous controll over your sexuality. You can take away the urge to have sex if you feel its not ok or if your partner not want to have it for a reason or another. And of course the main thing is to not constantly loose the energy. It feels amasingly greate to have this extra sexual energy and you migth feel wery happy from time to time just feeling it exists. Having a partner or not.
Thx for the suport on the dream stuff. The typical dreams like this when I do the practise of 100 days without an ejaculation is dreams about wery big penises. It could be a dream where your penis have the size of two meters and such similar stuff. Sometime they got wery wiered. I write this mostly to see if someone have investigated time to the wery much interesting psychological aspects of this practises. That could be an interesting thread.
Thx Steven
S D
November 28, 2007 at 6:54 am #26370Swedich DragonParticipantthx Steven
I have two other adictions in my life. 1 cofe, beacase I’m often wery tiered and work with my master thesis I from time to time go back and try to fix it with cofe. I got extremly out of balance. The studies works but I’m getting wery fast angry for things not going my way. My stomach hurts from it and my adrenals. Just in this moment I have had a problem with it. Taking 3 cups this weak the firs in about 3 months. I know the solution to it. I have to not force myself to study if I’m tiered. It’s better to go to bed. Or to try to drink some the instead.
The other adiction is to play chess on the internet. Sometimes I’m completely lost in it. But this one I don’t think harm me so much. So I have realy no strugle with it. If somting bad with it it take away time from my UT practises from time to time. But I have found out the reason why I do it is beacase I have a tendency to spend to much time working on my goals and then this play chess thing is balancing this.
So there might be some kind of unbalance in your life that force you to an adiction.
1 porn: Unbalance fear to let love into your life
2 cofe: Fear to not have the time enough to complete the master thesis work. Not lissen to what is in the present moment. If tiered go into it. If energetic and have lust to work go into that.
3 Chess play: Work to much play to litle in your own life.I had another one also during my illness. To look at TV to much from time to time. This is completely gone now. But I stll follow one rule. I just let myself see one program each day at a maximum. Then it’s easier to choose someting with quality in it.
Sincerly S D
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