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September 19, 2012 at 2:48 pm #39916StevenModerator
Saw this article online, passing it on . . . S
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15 Things You Should Give Up To Be HappyHere is a list of 15 things which, if you give up on them, will make your life a lot easier and much, much happier. We hold on to so many things that cause us a great deal of pain, stress and suffering and instead of letting them all go, instead of allowing ourselves to be stress free and happy we cling on to them. Not anymore. Starting today we will give up on all those things that no longer serve us, and we will embrace change. Ready? Here we go:
1. Give up your need to always be right
There are so many of us who cant stand the idea of being wrong wanting to always be right even at the risk of ending great relationships or causing a great deal of stress and pain, for us and for others. Its just not worth it. Whenever you feel the urgent need to jump into a fight over who is right and who is wrong, ask yourself this question: Would I rather be right, or would I rather be kind? Wayne Dyer. What difference will that make? Is your ego really that big?
2. Give up your need for control
Be willing to give up your need to always control everything that happens to you and around you situations, events, people, etc. Whether they are loved ones, coworkers, or just strangers you meet on the street just allow them to be. Allow everything and everyone to be just as they are and you will see how much better will that make you feel.
By letting it go it all gets done. The world is won by those who let it go. But when you try and try. The world is beyond winning. Lao Tzu
3. Give up on blame
Give up on your need to blame others for what you have or dont have, for what you feel or dont feel. Stop giving your powers away and start taking responsibility for your life.
4. Give up your self-defeating self-talk
Oh my. How many people are hurting themselves because of their negative, polluted and repetitive self-defeating mindset? Dont believe everything that your mind is telling you especially if its negative and self-defeating. You are better than that.
The mind is a superb instrument if used rightly. Used wrongly, however, it becomes very destructive. Eckhart Tolle
5. Give up your limiting beliefs
about what you can or cannot do, about what is possible or impossible. From now on, you are no longer going to allow your limiting beliefs to keep you stuck in the wrong place. Spread your wings and fly!
A belief is not an idea held by the mind, it is an idea that holds the mind Elly Roselle
6. Give up complaining
Give up your constant need to complain about those many, many, maaany things people, situations, events that make you unhappy, sad and depressed. Nobody can make you unhappy, no situation can make you sad or miserable unless you allow it to. Its not the situation that triggers those feelings in you, but how you choose to look at it. Never underestimate the power of positive thinking.
7. Give up the luxury of criticism
Give up your need to criticize things, events or people that are different than you. We are all different, yet we are all the same. We all want to be happy, we all want to love and be loved and we all want to be understood. We all want something, and something is wished by us all.
8. Give up your need to impress others
Stop trying so hard to be something that youre not just to make others like you. It doesnt work this way. The moment you stop trying so hard to be something that youre not, the moment you take off all your masks, the moment you accept and embrace the real you, you will find people will be drawn to you, effortlessly.
9. Give up your resistance to change
Change is good. Change will help you move from A to B. Change will help you make improvements in your life and also the lives of those around you. Follow your bliss, embrace change dont resist it.
Follow your bliss and the universe will open doors for you where there were only walls Joseph Campbell10. Give up labels
Stop labeling those things, people or events that you dont understand as being weird or different and try opening your mind, little by little. Minds only work when open. The highest form of ignorance is when you reject something you dont know anything about. Wayne Dyer
11. Give up on your fears
Fear is just an illusion, it doesnt exist you created it. Its all in your mind. Correct the inside and the outside will fall into place.
The only thing we have to fear, is fear itself. Franklin D. Roosevelt12. Give up your excuses
Send them packing and tell them theyre fired. You no longer need them. A lot of times we limit ourselves because of the many excuses we use. Instead of growing and working on improving ourselves and our lives, we get stuck, lying to ourselves, using all kind of excuses excuses that 99.9% of the time are not even real.
13. Give up the past
I know, I know. Its hard. Especially when the past looks so much better than the present and the future looks so frightening, but you have to take into consideration the fact that the present moment is all you have and all you will ever have. The past you are now longing for the past that you are now dreaming about was ignored by you when it was present. Stop deluding yourself. Be present in everything you do and enjoy life. After all life is a journey not a destination. Have a clear vision for the future, prepare yourself, but always be present in the now.
14. Give up attachment
This is a concept that, for most of us is so hard to grasp and I have to tell you that it was for me too, (it still is) but its not something impossible. You get better and better at with time and practice. The moment you detach yourself from all things, (and that doesnt mean you give up your love for them because love and attachment have nothing to do with one another, attachment comes from a place of fear, while love well, real love is pure, kind, and self less, where there is love there cant be fear, and because of that, attachment and love cannot coexist) you become so peaceful, so tolerant, so kind, and so serene. You will get to a place where you will be able to understand all things without even trying. A state beyond words.
15. Give up living your life to other peoples expectations
Way too many people are living a life that is not theirs to live. They live their lives according to what others think is best for them, they live their lives according to what their parents think is best for them, to what their friends, their enemies and their teachers, their government and the media think is best for them. They ignore their inner voice, that inner calling. They are so busy with pleasing everybody, with living up to other peoples expectations, that they lose control over their lives. They forget what makes them happy, what they want, what they need .and eventually they forget about themselves. You have one life this one right now you must live it, own it, and especially dont let other peoples opinions distract you from your path.
September 20, 2012 at 1:15 am #39917adelParticipantAll the things that can be let go of on
the autumn equinox. Sometimes I wonder
if my intention is “watered down” if
I have more than one.What would you consider to be a way of
saying a single intention that can incorporate
all fifteen of the above? Like, releasing
all that binds me????My digestion has slowed down in the past
few days, I feel the need to do some ceremony
on the 22nd. I think DH followed by Primordial.Adel
September 21, 2012 at 2:41 am #39919StevenModeratorHi Adel,
From past experience, it is much better
if you just have one request, and that the
one request that you have is very very specific.In times when I’ve tried to ask for more than
one thing, or in times when I’ve used an
“all-encompassing” general request, the
response I’ve gotten back for the most part
has been very meager, if at all.In my opinion, my recommendation is to
pick the ONE THING, the one SPECIFIC thing
that you feel is the most important among
all possible issues. Focus all of your intention
and energy in THAT direction for optimal success
in my view.It doesn’t mean that you can’t work on other issues
in the meantime, but for ceremony / empowered shifting
purposes, I highly recommend you pick ONE SPECIFIC thing.Fall equinox is about LETTING GO, so select your issues
from this category. If you have a larger, more important
issue (but not in this category of LETTING GO), save it for the
WINTER SOLSTICE. The Winter Solstice is the most powerful
of the four points for creating an overall change in your life.
Fall equinox doesn’t really create changes in your life,
other than supporting your ability to let go. So if you
there is something you need to let go of, now is time to
empower that thought.I plan on doing a ceremony also,
just have to decide what it is going to be.S
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