February 14, 2007 at 8:10 pm #21145
Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won’t feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It’s not just in some of us; it’s in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.
This inspiring quote by Marianne Williamson is from her book, A Return To Love: Reflections on the Principles of A Course in Miracles, Harper Collins, 1992. From Chapter 7, Section 3
–I like to remember this quote when people try to make me smaller than I know am.
EFebruary 15, 2007 at 7:42 am #21146
Hey Emelgee, glad to see you back!
I would like to reply on your posting.
I noticed that through time being here on this forum it was more important to feel appreciation, to be listen to than having a mental satisfying reply on a post.
(yes, a typical female hunger !)
Another point is my personal attempt to ‘meet’, to find a satisfying middle point within my self and with the other, by not stepping out, but to keep an inner safe place, works better and better thanks to this life practice of the forum.
As well to give my voice as much value as that of my fellow male participants, without getting caught in the male play of battle, which is tempting.
While it is more difficult to explain feelings and womens’ thoughts are different, we normally try to match the male standards in order to be listened to.
That is why this forum is my playground, to stay as close as I can be, in me, in the midst of this male jungle. And again I am getting more comfortable, finding my personal fingerprint.
In October last year I emailed this privately to Alexander dealing with some of the postings then:
‘Working with the reactions is a good opportunity to feel what it does inside of me and how I handle them. So maybe I am happy with the stupid responses because it allows me to observe my deepest feelings. Maybe this particular forum is a good place for us because it is helping us to refine ourselves. Without resistance or reactions we would not be able to work on certain trigger points. So bless the bad guys :)) ‘
On the other hand:
I explained to Alexander on a different occasion that my being here on this forum for me is not to have an intellectual debate perse but it is my attempt to speak up, to speak free and to speak open. I asked him to give me that space instead of starting a debate of how, why and when, which he did since then.
I think it is useful for us, as women, to speak clear about what we want instead of drowning in the pool men like to wrestle in. Putting certain boundaries and making that clear enough for men to understand.
Alexander understood my point and is giving me the space I asked for, without breathing in my neck, pushing me around to explain why I said what I said how I said.
I have no need for competition, I just like to be here as me, to learn, to understand and feel comfortable in the midst of the eye of the storm.February 15, 2007 at 8:16 pm #21148
Hi Wendy 🙂
I appreciate your comments. 🙂
To be honest, there isn’t much that people say that bothers me personally. I speak when I want to, about what I want to and I don’t have too much concern if that bothers other people. Having said that, if a person attempts to emotionally/intellectually manipulate me into certain responses or behaviours, I will very quickly call them up on it. I will not accept disrespect; nor will I dish it out.
If I go silent for a while it is simply because I see that the alignment between myself and what is occuring within the group is not in line – so, I do other things for a while and wait for inspiration to strike again.
I have no issue with intellectual conversation as such (other than it seems the true point of everything is missed once it is resident purely in the brain!) and am happy to let these conversations occur around me even if, personally, they hold little emotional/spiritual value to me.
Also, I am a Gemini – so, to a certain extent, intellectual conversations hold some interest to me but conversely I have little patience when it comes to beating around the point 😛
EFebruary 16, 2007 at 6:09 am #21150
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