INCREASING ERECTION ENERGY

It’s easier to stay healthy, than it is to correct an unhealthy condition.

Could be that qi gong will only give you marginal results, and never really correct your situation. This is not to say that qi gong is not worth trying. Also, that some marginal results in improvement and maintainance could be very worth while.

“Scrotal compression” (described in Chia’s & Winn’s Taoist Secrets of Love book) has been known to, sometimes, increase jing power. .. and has been recommended, I’ve heard, to address this kind of condition.

Dr. Lin uses a somewhat similar method, which he calls “Sexual Chi Kong Breathing” as part of several techniques that he recommends for sexual health and retention. See Lin’s Links, courtesy of Alchemical Taoism.com.

p> well the squeeze the prostate thing doesnt do what these guys say it will do ..in fact if anything it does the opposite.ie causes ejaculation not stopping it. >

This has been commented on before, by others. Again, Lin’s methods address this by focusing more on pulsing-activation of the tissues around the tailbone. See his Anal Breathing method, and related links.

Some other areas of inquiry:

Chinese Herbs. Go see a doctor of chinese medicine, he can diagnose your situation more specifically, and recommend herbs. This could be very helpful to maintain general health in the area over the long term.

The obvious more recent western drugs for e.d. (The western approach, of course, tends to totally ignore factors that the eastern approach would address.)

Trunk

It sounds like you have two issues: (1) you have trouble getting hard and (2) when you do get hard you come quickly. (Also, I wonder if you also have the problem of staying hard once you do get an erection?)

Classic daoist solutions to this are (i) seminal retention (don’t come for at least a week or two) and (ii) daily “PC exercises” to strengthen the PC muscles (that is, clenching like you are stopping in the middle of a pee). In a normal person, both of these should, over time, build up sexual energy and make your erections harder. I can not recommend these two things enough. If you are not doing them, I don’t think you’ll get anywhere.

While you’re doing these two things, you should also figure out is if you have a real medical problem. Do you get hard in the mornings when you wake up? And if so, do you stay hard if you then stimulate your penis. If you do and you do, you probably don’t have a medical problem.

If you don’t then it’s worth seeing a doctor to see if he can find something physiologically wrong with you like blocked arteries, enlarged prostate, etc. that might be causing the problem. If so, you should work with whatever advice he gives you.

If it’s not a medical problem along those lines then there are two possibilities. One is psychological, which accounts for probably 90% of impotence. The other is what can best be termed “energetic”.

Don’t give short shrift to the psychological. As men get older they tend to loose some sensitivity/stamina. Also, EVERYONE has sexual issues, particularly ones of performance. You put these two things together and they are potent erection killers. To put it another way, the easiest way for a 45 year old man to loose/not get an erection is to be thinking “I hope I don’t get soft”. This can happen even while masturbating if you are really concerned about it.

Speaking of masturbating, I’d pay some attention to it. While you’re doing your two weeks of PC exercises, find something that REALLY turns you on, pornography for example, or just some sort of fantasy, and really work it into your (non-ejaculatory) masturbation. Be honest and don’t deny yourself what turns you on. Whatever it is (men, women, boys, girls, small animals, etc.) just use it and see if you can have a good, long, rock hard masturbation session. If so, you know you don’t have a problem (at least not an physical one) and that it’s more about psychology and even environment. Assuming you have enjoyable sessions, the masturbation will at least help you get back into a space of “yes, I can get hard like a normal guy”.

Another thing to do if you’re having trouble getting hard even during masturbation is to try it after popping a Viagra. I’m not recommending Viagra as a substitute for a natural approach or something to regularly rely on. I’m just suggesting it to get you back to the head space of “ah yes, I can get hard and enjoy jacking off to a picture of a naked girl” (or whatever). I.e., just to get you back into the head of “horny and fun is a real and doable possibility for me”. If it works with Viagra, wean yourself off of Viagra (e.g., 1st time with a 50 mg pill, next time 1/4 of that, then 1/4 etc.). Your erections might be less quick and hard (Viagra is pretty amazing stuff) but should still be better than you’ve been having.

Finally the issue of energetics. When your sexual energy is low (i) it tends to be difficult to get an erection, (ii) erections tend to be less hard AND (iii) you tend to come almost immediately. Sound familiar?

The way to fix sexual energy depletion is all the above. I.e. build up energy by not coming and build up the strength of the area by pc exercises. Plus do some masturbation to get back in touch with your own body/sexuality.

Of course, while masturbating be very careful not to come. Back off the second you think you’re getting there, even if you’re penis is flaccid (which it may well be). Then go back. Another trick is if you think you’re going to come, slap your penis, this will confuse the nerves and probably stop the impulse, then go back to rubbing/whatever. The idea is to try to get yourself very hard for at least a little while, and then make those hard periods last longer and longer during your masturbation sessions — all without coming. Depending on your sexual energy level and general physical and emotional health this might not happen the first few times, but if you practice all these things you should get there.

Which leads me to my last point: try not to freak out. Remember that even if you can fuck for an hour, during that hour your penis is going to have periods of rock hardness and almost near flaccidity, depending on a lot of factors that have nothing to do with your health/virility. It’s normal for a penis to change. It’s also fairly normal for 45 year old men to experience some problems in this area. I do believe however that a two or three week course following the above recommendations should work, absent any real medical issue.

Feel free to ask more questions if any of this isn’t clear.
And good luck.

> could you post the link for your additional info >

Sure.

The page I was referring to is Lin’s Links.

The additional text on that page is:
As far as number of breaths, amount of pressure.. Moderate pressure (not force), with higher repetitions works best. The idea is to promote circulation, to gradually – by repetition – massage away the tension so that the area is supple. This requires some sensitivity re: how much pressure to apply – so that you are resolving tension, not creating it (nor, worse, forcefully pressing tension blockages deeper into your system).

Trunk