Is sadness ever constructive (laughter yoga question)

Hi,

Since no one–including myself–has welcomed you
to the board yet . . . Welcome!

To your question:

Most emotions are a reflection of your perceived beliefs about a
given situation. Two different people in the exact same situation
can have a different reaction–based solely on perception. Thus, in
some sense, we *choose* to feel a certain way. If that’s the
case, they why would you want to choose to feel anything but happy?

There are two situations when it is natural to feel unhappy however.

One is when you have some trapped emotion or issue buried within, and
then when you act to release it, it comes out as sadness, crying, anger,
whatever. In this case, it isn’t necessarily bad, as it is really just
a sign of some kind of cleansing process . . . a release.

Secondly, we oftentimes allow ourselves to get upset,
angry, depressed, or whatever, because ultimately we
strongly want some change to occur, and this strongly negative
emotion is what is needed to push us over the edge . . . to give
us the courage to start the process of change.

Of course, if you realize that this is what you need, then you may
as well just get to it, take action, and skip the feeling miserable part!

Now no one can always be happy. It’s part of being human.
However, we can choose the extent to which we internalize these feelings
and attach them to our inner being.

The Inner Smile, which you’ll learn at some point, really doesn’t
have so much to do with smiling, and being *externally* happy, as it
does cultivating the feeling of acceptance–cultivating that within,
and being *internally* happy. Thus, if something bad comes along,
while you definitely won’t be “happy” about it, internally you can
reach a state of acceptance about it–and on an internal level,
sort feel neutral about the situation.

Ultimately this comes down to the difference between “self-acceptance”
and “always trying to be positive”. The best explanation for this
comes from Michael’s Inner Smile E-book (which you can download for
free) . . . here is a relevant excerpt:

“Our feelings naturally fluctuate over the course of our life.
It is useless to try to have only the good feelings and not the bad ones.
Likewise, the Inner Smile is different from just having a positive attitude.
Don’t confuse the Inner Smile with trying to be externally cheerful
even when inwardly you feel things are going badly.
This “polyanna” approach is using positive emotions to control one’s
state. The “power of positive thinking” is the mental equivalent of this.
Positive thinking that is artificially forced on the psyche is
only a temporarily successful strategy, because it rests on
suppressing negative thoughts and feelings. Eventually that
suppressed negativity, pushed down into the unconscious,
festers and comes back to haunt you either internally as some
disease or externally as some calamity. If you force yourself
to remain positive the entire time, your negativity will unconsciously
act out. Negative consciousness cannot be “killed”. That is because
all consciousness is a part of the universal chi field, and you can’t
kill any part of the field without killing the whole field.
You can only change its shape. This is the whole purpose of chi kung
science – to learn the practical methods of changing the shape of
your personal chi field. The negativity is left buried in your
body rather than transformed. It is literally buried alive,
festering deep inside some organ or stored inside your bones or
joints. It will wait for a moment of weakness, and internal
“chi pressure” of the negativity will ooze into the cracks in
your life, wherever it is you have a weakness. You will wonder
why you have arthritis or a stroke. The Dark Force strikes back.”

Best,
Steven

Hello Steven

Like your post on feelings and much other you have been writening lately.

I am just suprised ower you using the word qigong science, after your way of definition of science, earlier posts, there are no room as I see it for a science on qigong. Beacase qigong are to much relying on feelings and subjective processes. And beacase qigong are using terms that hardly are possible to use in science if you use the rigid definitions from the natural sciences. What is then qi shen and jing for instance.

As I see it you have to open up to change your definition of science or not use words like qigong science. Otherways you are contradicting yourself.

As I see it.

🙂

S D

Hello

Much Is happening in my life in the moment and I am also quite busy teaching and
traveling to the job take all my eforts for the moment.

Sorry I missed it was a quote (am tired)

Short what is happening

Have a general feeling that wery many things on a deeper level in my life have been solved. Like I am in a new phase in my life.

I did find some books that showed me what to do with my life according to study in my occupation that will change my planes for perhaps many ýears to come.

My treatments with hormones seems to have some efect on my general health and I feel a bit better now even though I have been working my as of.

Have been in contact with Hsi Lai and perhaps I will go courses in the white tiger system to be an initiate tiger. Have to decide this month.

Have gone through the deeper feelings stopping me from connecting with the girl I like. Feel much more free for the moment. Will meet her soon and see if she will notice the difference.

Have been able to sort out alot of old books and also some stuff from my childhood. So I can start new things easier and not have things that not are of value left. This seems to free some energy and momentum in my life.

Have left for the moment the rigid practise plan I had and do just the exercises I like. Have been doing quite alot hatha yoga for the adranals and also some greate meditaions with the sun and the mon and the pearl from fusion practises.

thats about it.

S D