December 24, 2007 at 9:10 pm #26723
Have been thinking about relationship issues quite alot lately. Changing my wiew from feelings of not being adequate myself in my situation of having a serious relationship. Or more precisely thinking alot of what I can give into the relationship. Thinking about why feelings arises telling me I can’t handle a serious relationship right now.
From this perspective changing the wiew from the personal; what I can give her or what she can give me? Now thinking about what us can give to eachother. This thinking is more powerful more promising and more beatiful!
Changing myself and wanting to increase comunication. Be me all of me and try to not be afraid and blocked or restricted, instead trying to open up to comunication and spontanity. A goal for the moment.
Question still arises about how to create a good relationship? A relationship built upon onesty and counsious actions. Does counsiousness cill something of the passion or are they possible to combine? How to be counsious sincere and onest during wery powerful passion and feelings going on?
What about meeting a wery evolved energetically strong women stronger than yourself. What happens energetically in such a relationship? Still not thinking from the us perspective but only from the personal one. What happens energetically with a us perspective? What is the dynamic in this? What is evolving spiritually togheter? What is the difference betwean a cultivating couple and a non cultivating couple, whatever that is?
Sincerely S DDecember 27, 2007 at 12:29 am #26724
Being single, I’m probably not the best to respond, but
I’ll take a stab.
Cultivate within, to develop internal happiness and
contentment. You want to be happy within first, or
you’ll look to the other one to supply you with what you
don’t have–and then create conflict when they don’t
give it to you. Similarly, operate from a standpoint
of heightened awareness to see that they are happy
without a relationship, so that they likewise don’t
look to you to fill their hole.
If you can do these things, then the only other
thing I would say is this:
Keep things light and fun
Then the rest will take care of itself.
Too much worry and analyzing can poison an otherwise
good relationship. Replace with compassion and
cultivation, awareness, light and fun, no worries,
compassion, and loving kindness
are useful tools for such a journey.
StevenDecember 27, 2007 at 3:36 am #26726
Seems to be exactrly what I needed to hear. Thx.
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