September 30, 2009 at 1:21 pm #32289
note: It would be interesting to hear comments from women on this topic…..Mchael
SPIRITUAL WOMEN HAVE MORE SEX
By Sally Law
September 30, 2009
Is it sexy to be spiritual? New research has found that spirituality has a
greater effect on the sex lives of young adults — especially women — than
religion, impulsivity, or alcohol.
I think people have been well aware of the role that religious and
spiritual matters play in everyday life for a very long time, said Jessica
Burris, one of the studys researchers at the University of Kentucky. But
in the research literature, the unique qualities of spirituality — apart
from religiousness — are not usually considered.
According to a research measure known as the Spiritual Transcendence Scale,
those qualities are connectedness, universality, and prayer fulfillment. But
the data found that of the three, connectedness plays the largest role in
spiritual sexuality and leads to more sex with more partners, often without
the use of condoms.
Believing one is intimately tied to other human beings and that
interconnectedness and harmony are indispensible may lead one to believe
sexual intimacy possesses a divine or transcendent quality in itself,
Burris writes. In fact, ascribing sacred qualities to sex has been
positively associated with positive affective reactions to sex, frequency of
sex, and number of sexual partners among university students.
The studys participants indeed were university students; 353 undergraduates
(61 percent of whom were female) answered a questionnaire that asked them
about their alcohol use, impulsivity, religiousness, spirituality, and
sexual practices. The statements on spirituality, which were ranked by level
of agreement, included In the quiet of my prayers and/or meditations, I
find a sense of wholeness, and Although individual people may be
difficult, I feel an emotional bond with all of humanity.
The study found that spiritual men werent sexually affected — in fact,
their frequency of sex decreased. The researchers figure men might not view
spirituality as sexual because they biologically dont think of sex as a
gateway to emotional intimacy.
For women, however, spirituality was the strongest predictor for the number
of sexual partners, the frequency of sex, and the tendency to have sex
without a condom.
It is possible female young adults yearn for greater connectedness with
other humans, Burris writes. Spirituality, at least for women, could be
considered a risk factor.
A separate review of studies last year found that sexually unsatisfied women
who practiced the Eastern techniques of mindfulness and yoga reported
improvements in levels of arousal and desire, as well as better orgasms.
But is it really spirituality that makes women more sexual, or does
spirituality just imply an open-mindedness that manifests itself through
Research suggests that spirituality provides predictive utility over and
above personality traits such as conscientiousness, extraversion, and
openness, Burris told LiveScience. So while it may be the case that
spirituality is correlated with other variables that show similar
relationships with human sexuality and sexual practices (such as openness to
experiences), the relationship we observed, in my opinion, cannot simply be
explained away by other variables.September 30, 2009 at 3:43 pm #32290
Free Love Movement is old news.September 30, 2009 at 3:51 pm #32292
Where are these women? 🙂
And why don’t they post on this forum?
This forum is too heavy with the testosterone . . .
Attn. female readers:
Don’t be shy. Join in and post.
We don’t bite . . . much (LOL)
Smiles to all,
StevenOctober 1, 2009 at 6:19 pm #32294
If spIritual women are having more sex and spiritual men are having less what type of guy are these women having sex with?October 1, 2009 at 7:14 pm #32296
Non-Spiritual Men?October 1, 2009 at 10:32 pm #32298
Jocks.October 2, 2009 at 11:52 pm #32300
Time to hit the yoga studio…October 3, 2009 at 8:12 pm #32302
Just saw this on the CNN website; I wonder how
the articles relate . . . and what all the women
think about this . . . S
Love, pleasure, duty: Why women have sex
Wed September 30, 2009
By Elizabeth Landau
(CNN) — What makes a woman want to have sex? Is it physical attraction? Love? Loneliness? Jealousy? Boredom? Painful menstrual cramps?
Many women interviewed were having sex purely because they wanted the experience.
It turns out that woman have sex for all of these reasons and more, and that their choices are not arbitrary; there may be evolutionary explanations at work.
Psychologists Cindy Meston and David Buss, both professors at the University of Texas at Austin, decided that the topic of “why women have sex” deserved a book of its own. They’ve woven scientific research together with a slew of women’s voices in their new collaborative work, “Why Women Have Sex,” published September 29 by Times Books.
“We do bring in men occasionally by way of contrast, but we wanted to focus exclusively on women so that the complexity of women’s sexual psychology was not given the short shrift, so to speak,” said Buss, a leading evolutionary psychologist.
The authors conducted a study from June 2006 to April 2009 that asked women whether they had ever had sex for one of 237 reasons, all of which had emerged in a previous study. About 1,000 women contributed their perspectives.
It turns out that women’s reasons for having sex range from love to pure pleasure to a sense of duty to curiosity to curing a headache. Some women just want to please their partners, and others want an ego boost.
Purposely made partner jealous?
31 percent women vs. 17 percent men have tried to evoke jealousy in a partner.
Had sex out of sense of duty?
84 percent wives vs. 64 percent husbands usually or always comply when a spouse wants sex but they don’t.
Partner choice for casual sex?
63 percent of women prefer to have casual sex with a friend vs. 37 percent who prefer sex with a stranger.
Steal someone else’s mate?
38 percent of women say they’ve “poached” someone for a short fling.
Buss said he found it surprising how dramatically and variably sexual experience seemed to influence women’s feelings of self-esteem.
“Some sexual experiences that women in our study reported just had devastating effects and long-lasting negative effects on their feelings of self-worth,” he said. “But then for others, their sexual experiences provided the soaring height of euphoria and made them feel alive and vibrant.”
Meston said some 20-somethings defied the gender stereotypes that women should be more chaste than men and not sleep around as much.
“Many of the women were having sex purely because they wanted the experience, they wanted the adventure, they wanted to see what it was like to be with men of different ethnicities,” she said. “Some women said they wanted more notches on the belt. They simply wanted to get rid of their virginity.”
Some women have sex to make money, and not just in the conventional manner of prostitution. A woman from California who goes by “Natalie Dylan” garnered national attention this year with her campaign to sell her virginity and said in January that her top bid of $3.8 million came from a 39-year-old Australian. Read more about selling virginity
There are more factors that influence a woman’s sex drive than a man’s, the authors said, and the factors that make men attractive to women — personality, sense of humor, self-confidence, status — are less important considerations for men when they are choosing women.
There is also evidence that sexual arousal is more complicated for women than for men, the authors report.
A study from Meston’s lab showed a strong correlation between how erect a man’s penis is and how aroused he says he is. By contrast, the link is much weaker between a woman’s physical arousal (as measured inside her vagina) and the arousal she says she feels, the researchers found. This is why drugs to treat erectile dysfunction such as Viagra don’t work as well in women, the authors said.
That makes sense from an evolutionary perspective, even though men and women may not consciously think about their choices that way, the authors said. If the goal of a man is to spread his genes, he would need to look for signs of fertility in a woman, which are historically associated with physical cues, Buss said.
“The adaptive problem that women have had to solve is not simply picking a man who is fertile but a man who perhaps will invest in her, a man who won’t inflict costs on her, a man who might have good genes that could be conveyed to her children,” he said.
In this context, women must also be more selective, because wrong choices can lead to much higher costs than for men: pregnancy and child-rearing.
In studies, women have consistently shown preferences for men with symmetrical bodies, a subtle mark of genetic fitness and status, the book said. In fact, simply by smelling T-shirts that men had worn for two nights, women judged the odors of symmetrical men to be the most attractive, and the asymmetrical men’s odors the least attractive, in one study.
Still, symmetry isn’t everything, Meston and Buss said. They pointed to singer-songwriter Lyle Lovett as someone with other positive attributes, such as musical talent and personality, who has clearly done well with women despite asymmetrical features.
“Women are evaluating men on multiple attributes,” Buss said.
Kissing also turns out to be more important for women than for men in some respects: In one study, 53 percent of men said they would have sex without kissing, but only 15 percent of women said they would even consider sex without smooching first, the book said. For women, kissing is “an emotional litmus test,” the authors wrote.
The medicinal value of sex also comes into play for some women, the book said. Sex can help a woman relax and sleep better, and it can ease the pain of menstrual cramps and headaches — and some survey participants cited these as reasons they’ve had sex.
A study from Rutgers University found that, during orgasm, women were able to tolerate 75 percent more pain. Though Meston has not studied the phenomenon in men, she said she would expect sex to have the same effects of reducing headaches and other pain.
The authors collected stories from 1,006 women from 46 states, eight Canadian provinces, three European countries and Australia, New Zealand, Israel and China. Participants came from a variety of ethnic and religious — as well as non-religious — backgrounds and socioeconomic statuses. About 80 percent of the women said they were in a relationship at the time, and 93 percent said they were predominantly or exclusively heterosexual.
The book also explores how women’s perception of sex may change over time, according to whom they’re with and whether they are married.
A 26-year-old heterosexual woman wrote, “When I was single, I had sex for my own personal pleasure. Now that I am married, I have sex to please my husband. My own pleasure doesn’t seem as important as his. I believe he feels the same way.”October 4, 2009 at 3:39 pm #32304
HAHA! Yep kirtans and yoga studios. I know some one that has had great sexual success by gong to those.
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