Energy drain

AS FOR PRACTICES:

I’d recommend practicing the Belt Channel–which is
protective channel around the waist. It is designed
to help act as a shield from outside influences.

Since you feel like your boundaries are being invaded and assaulted,
I’d recommend practicing a lot of other Earth exercises in
addition to the belt channel–such as Deep Earth Pulsing,
and even doing the Earth healing sound/Monkey (QF1) if you are
not familiar with the above. Any grounding exercises like QF4
or Iron Shirt will also help you connect to the Earth. Just
get into a standing posture and imagine rooting into the Earth,
and feeling the Earth support you and stabilize you.

I’d also recommend doing the Inner Smile, focusing on the Yang
version, where you smile outward to everything outside yourself–
including this guy. By having an outward positive radiance,
it creates a natural pressure so things don’t feel like
they are falling in.

Sound entering the ears affects the kidneys, which can weaken
them. Moreover, since this is mainly an Earth issue, and
Earth destroys water, your water could probably use support
also. It may be helpful to do some water exercises
to combat fatigue . . . although I’d still mainly focus
on Earth.

AS FOR THE SITUATION:

First I would suggest confronting the person and telling
him that he needs to not be so loud when he talks! Whenever
he talks, say “shhh, don’t talk so loud”. Do this
repeatedly as he talks if he doesn’t maintain a soft voice.
Of course, while you do this, you’re doing the liver healing
sound for your anger 🙂 . . . and helps prevent vicious wood
from destroying your Earth.

Maybe he’s talking so loud because he’s an attention whore,
and when he sees that you aren’t paying attention to him,
he figures that you “can’t hear him”, so he talks louder.

Whatever the reason, you need to confront him about it, and
give him the opportunity to make changes–sometimes people
don’t realize the effect they have on others.

Regardless, you should *first* give the person the benefit
of the doubt and try talking/communicating your feelings
and make sure that he knows–really knows–how strongly you feel . . .
because even if you talk to him, he might not realize how much
this is affecting you. See if he is willing to change
and give him some time to make changes.

If this doesn’t work and/or if you really can’t stand him,
then I suggest moving out. Your home is supposed to be
a safe haven and sanctuary, and not a place of stress.
In that case, I’d suggest moving out sooner rather than later–
find another roommate or whatever to deal with lease situations,
and just leave. Seriously!

In the intervening time, spend as little time as possible at
home–either be at the library, bookstore, coffeehouse, whatever.
When you are home, wear earplugs to block out the sound and ignore him.
All temporary until you move out, but I’d use these avenues
if and only if you’ve already decided it’s a lost cause and you
have decided on leaving.

My best to your situation,
Steven